It's Time
Praise for It's Time

For many years, Mary Goldenson has been a popular and highly respected Esalen workshop leader. In IT'S TIME, she captures the essence of her valuable work on the path of conscious living. If you're one of those people who keeps putting off what you know is right for you to do or be, this is the book for you. -- George Leonard, author of Mastery, The Way of Aikido, and The Ultimate Athlete and President of Esalen Institute

Mary Goldenson is a gifted teacher who has touched thousands and influenced their lives in a positive direction. Her book is clear, concise, and intelligent. -- Howard Schiechter, author of Jupiter's Rings

Mary Goldenson has given us a lifetime of wisdom and creativity distilled into one sparkling and profound volume. -- Kenneth Porter, M.D., Director of Psychiatry, Center for Spirituality and Psychotherapy

IT'S TIME ... inspirational, easy-to-read, filled with stories, the wisdom of the sages, and directions to the you within. -- Warren Farell, Ph.D., author of The Myth of Male Power

A heartfelt integration of what it means to live a full and whole life. -- Michael Murphy, Co-founder and Chairman of Esalen Institute, author of The Future of the Body, Golf in the Kingdom, The Kingdom of Shivas Irons, and The Life We Are Given.


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by Brother David Steindl-Rast


The first car race in the United States took place in 1895. Six motor cars rattled from Chicago to Evanston, Illinois and back. The proud winner earned $2,000. His average speed: 7.3 miles per hour! -- This was not much more than a century ago. We sure have been speeding up.

“One of the defenses I had developed as a child,” writes Mary Goldenson, “was speeding up and adding activities to mask my feelings.” We all have done this; our whole culture continually increases speed and decreases authentic feeling. Her book – It’s Time: No One Is Coming to Save You – reverses the process of speeding up. This is its outstanding merit. It is a book that makes us slow down and process our feelings. Indeed, it’s time we do so. In fact, doing so may be a matter of life or death.

Spiritual life, in Mary Goldenson’s words, is “to live consciously, process authentic feelings, take well thought-out risks, and embrace gratitude as a way of life.” A tall task to be sure, but Mary is qualified to offer guidance because she speaks from experience. She inspires confidence, because the voice of experience rings true.

My own experience has shown me how timely it is to “embrace gratitude as a way of life.” Through, I am in touch with a network for grateful living that links people from all over the world. They witness to the fact that, “to live consciously” is to live gratefully; that “authentic feelings” are anchored in gratefulness – which is the full response to any given situation; and that this grateful response transcends both dependence and independence by taking the risk of interdependence, a risk which leads to full aliveness.

It’s time – for each of us personally and for our culture as a whole -- to take this risk. I for one feel deeply grateful to Mary Goldenson for the wake-up call she is sounding in these pages. No doubt, you who are holding this book in your hands will feel grateful like me when you read it and feel its power.

Brother David Steindl-Rast, O.S.B., is a Viennese-born Benedictine monk, hermit, psychologist and author who has spent the last 35 years in both Eastern and Western monasteries exploring the roots of mysticism in the human heart. His books include A Listening Heart and Gratefulness:The Heart of Prayer.

Visit A Network for Grateful Living on the web at

From Chapter 1 of It's Time

When is it Time to Move On?

How do you know when it’s time to make a change in your life? How do you know when it is time to change jobs, move to a new city, get married, get divorced? How do you know when it is time to have children, drop out of school, go back to school? How do you know when it is time to attempt to change yourself or the world? How do you know when it’s time to go into therapy or get out of therapy? Accept a guru, leave a guru, join a religion or go on a spiritual retreat? How do you know when it is time? Time to gather your courage? Time to speak your truth? Time to ask the scary questions and really listen to the answers? more . . .